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Couples, Relationships and Marriage

Does This Situation Describe Your Concern?

The Center for Work and Family Life is available to help in the following ways:

  • practicing better self-care
  • activating and expanding your support sytem
  • applying and integrating the information found in these book & web resources into your daily living
  • connecting you with providers or community resources that specialize in this topic

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Reading List Notations:

Green font indicates books that have been read by Center for Work and Family Life staff.

The Center does not specifically recommend or endorse any particular literature, nor does the absence of books from this list represent a recommendation against such works.

The Center for Work and Family Life would like to thank and give credit to the Stanford University Faculty and Staff Help Center, which was instrumental in helping to assemble this reading list.

Web Resources Notations:

The links listed are being provided as additional resources for you. Most of these are not affiliated with the Center for Work and Family Life.

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Reading List

Bader, Ellyn, & Pearson, P. (1988). In Quest of the Mythical Mate. New York: Brunner-Mazel.

Note: Describes the developmental stages of marriage

Bader, Ellyn, & Pearson, P. (2001). Tell Me No Lies: How to Stop Lying to Your Partner—and Yourself—in the 4 Stages of Marriage. New York: St. Martin's Press.

Evans, Patricia (1992). The Verbally Abusive Relationship. Holbrook, MA: Adams Publishing.

Gottman, John (1994). Why Marriages Succeed or Fail. New York: Simon & Schuster.

Gottman, John (1999). The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work. New York: Crown Publishers.

Hendrix, Harville (1988). Getting the Love You Want. New York: Henry Holt.

Note: How and why we choose our partners, and how to heal relationship conflict

Halpern, Howard (1995). Finally Getting It Right: From Addictive/Obsessive Relationships to Healthy Ones. New York: Bantam.

Kirschenbaum, Mira (1997). Too Good to Leave, Too Bad to Stay: A Step by Step Guide to Help You Decide Whether to Stay in or Get Out of Your Relationship. New York: Plume.

Lederer, W.J. and Jackson, D.D. (1968). The Mirages of Marriage. New York: W.W. Norton.

Paleg, Kim, &. McKay, M. (2001). When Anger Hurts Your Relationship. Oakland, CA: New Harbinger.

Real, Terrence (2002). How Can I Get Through to You: Reconnecting Men and Women. New York: Fireside.

Spring, Janis Abrahms (1996). After the Affair: Healing the Pain and Rebuilding Trust when a Partner has Been Unfaithful. New York: HarperPerennial.

Weiner Davis, Michelle (2003). The Sex-Starved Marriage: A Couple's Guide to Boosting Their Marriage Libido. New York: Simon & Schuster.

Wile, Daniel (1988). After the Honeymoon. New York: Wiley.

Note: An excellent book on how to improve communication in intimate relationships

Web Resources